So S's Sunday School teacher took me aside after church to tell me that during the time the class was working on a Play-doh project, the teacher had asked them what they were going to make. S told her she was going to make a boy and girl together in bed.
Oh grand, I thought, as fear lurched into my chest. I have no idea what S has been exposed to in previous placements. I know her mom had three kids in three years with two different men and is now married to another man. Who knows what she witnessed? Do I address it with her? Do I let it slide as natural curiosity?
I know when the time comes I want to be honest with her about sex. After all, the way I found out was from my friend's dad's X-rated videos and porno magazines. I was in the fourth grade and of course, X-rated movies are all the weird stuff - menage a trois and the like. It was quite an education for me. I was convinced that nice, Christian people didn't have sex. I asked my sister Susan and she laughed and me and said, "Christians have sex. Just ask Mom. How do you think you got here?" I was HORRIFIED! I would sit in church and look at different couples and think of them having sex. Talk about a stolen innocence.
As it turns out, I did choose to talk with S about it. I asked her where she had seen a boy and girl in bed together. She said, "At the hotel." Then it dawned on me! We had stayed overnight in a hotel last Friday before the high school football finals. She and K slept in one bed, and Darren and I in the other. She was going to make a Play-doh version of us, I guess. So we had a talk about how a boy and girl can share a bed if they are married and how to tell if someone is married. I know good and well she will eventually run across couples co-habitating and I'll have to answer that question for her but for now, she was content to know that she could only share her bed with her sister and not her boy cousins. Not even her cute, redheaded cousin Micah.
1 comment:
OK, girl! I have just been entertained for nearly a half hour catching up on your blog!!! It just solidifies why I love you so much! You are the best and whether you realize it at the present or not, you are giving the whole world to these girls. Parenthood in general is not gushy, whether for adoptive parents or biolocigal ones. Just watch and notice how much you and Darren argue when there are no kids around! Probably none! Rafe and I are like little kids when we are alone! No interruptions, no stress from kids talking back. Sometimes I feel like my kids should be here for me and my pleasure, for them to be cute little accessories, trophies, etc. But it is not so. We are here for them as God has chosen us to bring them up to know Him! I can imagine all your troubles, they're not too different from my own. Just know you are loved and admired and it may be a long time before you realize your reward! Keep up the hard work! You are awesome!
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