Daring to Take "The Love Dare"

My small group has decided to do "The Love Dare" as their next series, as taken from the movie "Fireproof". This couldn't be better timing for me. Husband and I are in that itchy seventh year of marriage and kids have added a WHOLE new dimension.

I admit...I am surprised I am able to remain monogomous. I had the relationship longevity of a gnat during my dating years. Once the infatuation and "firsts" wore off, my attention span did, too. The prospect of marriage slightly scared me because I've always viewed it as "for keeps"...and not the "dig your heels in and endure like a martyr" kind of keeps but the "let's work on it to make it spectacular" kind of keeps.

Only I realize I'm rather lazy and selfish about working on it. I seem to lean towards harboring feelings of resentment when I feel I am doing more to make this household run. In reality, Darren does more housework then most men and is a tremendous dad to the girls. I seem to forget that easily.

The other night, he said something that just fried me. Can't even remember what it was but I wasn't in a good mood anyway and he made the mistake of asking me "what got into me" that day or something to that effect. As I am sitting at the dinner table, steam rising off my head, teeth clenched, I hear a little voice pipe up beside me. It's S, asking "Mommy, do you and Daddy ever fight?"

' You bet your sweet fanny, we do', I said to myself, seething internally. I managed a terse "Yes", finally, to which she asked "Are you having one right now?" To which I squeaked out, "Don't worry about it."

Nothing like being called on the carpet by your six-year-old. I cooled off after a while and you can tell whatever it was must not have been highly important because I can't even remember now but MAN, for a good 15 minutes, I thought of some incredible mean things to say in my head.

So you see, I am a good candidate for the "Love Dare". And goodness knows, Darren needs a less selfish, hot-headed, strong-willed wife. Too bad he married me for keeps! That was the biggest Love Dare of all!